Managing Your Move to or in San Antonio: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the mature counterpart of middle school—everyone is super zealous about the thought, but it's only the people with realistic expectations who wind up having a smooth move. Yes, it is a new abode, a new beginning, and the possibility of a wonderful new life--but once that last empty moving van leaves and you are standing there amidst your boxes, you have still got to do the actual work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is the key to starting that new life on the right foot--and that means not only coming to terms with the fact that a new home will not magically suck up the thirty pounds you keep meaning to lose, but that moving is emotionally difficult even in ideal circumstances and you and your family should allocate the time and space to accept that. One of the odd things about a local move--new home, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be more difficult on the kids than a long-distance relocation. A new house across the country removes the never-ending requests to go see their friends in the old neighborhood, and it is easier to welcome a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But back to the topic. There are three Ps involved with managing your move to or in San Antonio--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you do not purge will need to be packed, and the more you pack, the more you will pay. Expectation—I'll go through old stuff and only save what I love. Reality--you love a lot more than you believe you do. Regardless if you handle your own packing or hire professional movers, you've got to select what is worth the time and money to take with you. Purge Purging is one of those weird phrases you don't hear all the time, at least in a positive implication. But really, letting go of the old baggage is one of the wisest ways that you can allow your new residence to grant your expectations of wonderful. There are hundreds of guidelines and suggestions to help you figure out the best approaches to sort through your old stuff, from pragmatic--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a bit less traditional--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its simplest level, purging is simply picking through all the cupboards, closets and drawers and forming three piles: keep, throw away, donate. Or you may have four piles if you have got some nice things that you do not use anymore, and consign those things. A difficult thing about purging is keeping up the neutrality you need to be cutthroat about throwing away items. If you stored all those pre-school drawings, how can you throw them away and be a great parent? Here is a tip—have a friend help you go through items and talk you through why you are keeping items that are really best to be gotten rid of. Having someone else ask you out loud why you want to save the 1980s jelly shoes does put things in focus and you'll have a less difficult time growing the toss pile if you've got someone to back-up your decisions. If your significant other is the one with the accumulator inclinations, here is a strategy for helping an unenthusiastic participant part with their treasures. Think small, and commence with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and out-of-ink pens to one time only and progressively get to larger items, like collections (for instance, pick out two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch us next time as we review managing your move subjects: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.